To choose or not to choose, that is the queer question. For when it comes to the politics of sexual orientation within the LGBT communities, the concept of choice has long been the foreign invader for the gay group-think agenda. The terrible taboo of ever classifying anyone’s sexual identity as, god forbid!, an individual choice, appears to be exhibiting some cracks and crevices in that gay Ivory Tower of tow-the-party-line political correctness. And interestingly enough, the loudest voices of pro-choice dissension aren’t just coming from outside the gilded gay ghetto.
Take the case of Cynthia Nixon. Ms. Nixon, an actress who co-starred in the Sex in the City TV series, publicly acknowledged her relationship with another woman back in 2004 and hence quickly became a media icon for the gay community. After spending most of her adult life sexually involved with men, Nixon was classified by the head homos of the queer community as simply a late gay bloomer or perhaps bisexual. But Nixon’s recent remarks concerning her sexuality given in an interview with the New York Times on Sunday, have caused a comic commotion of hissy fit proportions. Here is the gist of her comments:
I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.
Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.
Nixon is getting dumped on from the usual corners of the gay ghetto for daring to describe a personal sense of reality that doesn’t fit the political agenda of Gay, Inc. But despite the nasty flak, she’s also getting a lot of support.
Gee, the good old LGBT community, now isn’t that the groovy group of people who tout the fluidity of gender? Aren’t these the folks who tell us that despite pesky biological realities to the contrary, that gender is an individual psychological choice? Yet somehow, these same wily wizards declare that sexual orientation is a biological imperative set at birth for everyone and can never, ever be changed. Our gay betters insist that those who come out in their older years, are simply late bloomers who never realized nor accepted their true sexual identity. The reverse, however, is an utter impossibility, according to those gay gods of political science. Such a dramatic transformation is apparently a one way street. Us humans, we are told, can live straight for decades and then come out but we can’t live gay for decades and go back in. Gee, do you think the homo hoods are trying to have it both ways and all ways?
Below are a few links to some of the opinion pieces covering Nixon’s for me it’s a choice story. Many of the comments are more insightful than the actual articles and they clearly show that the Old Gay Guard is losing its stranglehold on this political narrative.